May, 10, 2021 - Mother's Day
It's never easy. We have routines, expectations met by our miniature versions of us. Crummy clean-ups & mountains of laundry to do. It's not that bad though. We have the most productive job out there, that makes even the most filthy job look like rookies.
Being a mom is a privilege & it doesn't matter how many hours of sleep you lacked, as long as your little ones are content, it's a job well done.
Starting out, there's not even a source of structure to essentially "have it all". You can prepare all you want but nothing really sets it off more than actually being hands on.
I remember all the advice & thinking to myself how silly their struggles have been to not think it would happen to me.
Reality Check:
It's all testimonies from experience. Trial and error. Save yourself while you can type of mindset. The truth is that, we all adapt differently. After that nesting stage, you have this sense of full on MAMA BEAR instinct. Don't worry if you haven't felt it yet for you new moms out there but YOU WILL.
Apart being protective is the drop in our hormones... I've never been one to participate in those mommy groups, (not saying it's for everyone.) I went through a strange transition. Feeling all vulnerable & being on the sensitive rollercoaster ride of emotions from post partum.
Now, it gets better. Having support and reassurance is all you need plus hot showers! There comes a time in our motherhood or parenthood stages where we ask ourselves the tough questions.. Think of it as an interview or interrogation. Things like...Are you qualified for this job? No.. That was a joke, but seriously, how are you going to raise this little cute face? What are you wanting to teach? And most importantly, what are your little ones going to aspire to be?
Reality Check:
We don't need to have everything set in stone nor have an itinerary in place. Being a parent in general is like being first day on the job. As for experience & trial and error (again), you just sense it out. Meaning.. You'll know what works for you. Having those little moments when your little one can understand & hold a conversation is next level for parents. Not sure how to explain it but when you just get each other and analyzing their personality will never cease to amaze me.
ODDS & ENDS
You ever just find yourself wondering what mood my little being is feeling today?!
Whether he/she is extra picky or particular on one thing vs everything..
I've never fancied my little one pulling it to the test but I've expressed in verbal ways to find common ground. As parents, we try to analyze what is going on in that little growing mind of theirs to see how we can make things better. One, ask what's going on; Two, how can we help; Three, make things happen.
The list could go on, however you respond to your child is your maternal/paternal instinct.
Perspectival, place yourself in their shoes, communication is difficult and pin-pointing wants & needs can feel like (no one understands me). Allowing transparency into the mix will ultimately change the way we choose to take action whether than putting together a "To-Do List" to get the job done. Remember, our words towards our little ones becomes their inner voice. Say what you mean & mean what you say.
September 10 - End of a LONG week.
Parenthood as a beginner, is a learn as you go scenario. At the end of it, you just want to sleep through the night. If you know you know.
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